Since coming home with Ephraim a few months ago God has been teaching me a lot about being present. I know it’s kind of a buzz topic these days but I think it is so for a reason.
And in case anyone else is in this situation I thought I’d share two major ways God has been teaching me to be present in my own life lately.
#1 TO NOT LET MYSELF GET SO DISTRACTED ON SOCIAL MEDIA
Social media is not bad, I quite enjoy it, but it can often keep me from being present in moments with my family. There are a few things I’ve done and started to do to help with this.
First off, I’ve never been much of a real time Instagrammer, I’m the person that posts things a few hours after they happened (or a day, or even a few days . . . I’m really bad at the #widn hashtag because it’s never real time). If I take pictures when I’m out, or even at home with the kids I often just snap a bunch of photos and wait until I have a few minutes to myself (usually nap time) to go through my pictures and see if I got any keepers, edit them and then post them to Instagram.
The biggest problem for me is the fact that I’m a social media peruser. If I’m bored for even a second I’ll open Facebook and just scroll through the news feed, and even though there is usually nothing of value I can get distracted for a long time in it. So a few weeks ago I just deleted the Facebook app from my phone and it’s been huge. I still have the messenger app because otherwise I found myself going on FB just to check if I had messages which would completely defeat the purpose. Now I only go on FB if I’m using the computer, which if you can tell at all by the infrequency of my blog posts, really isn’t that much any more.
#2 TO HAVE DIFFERENT EXPECTATIONS FROM WHAT I GET DONE IN THE DAY
This has been the other big one for me, before I made this realization I would get frustrated with the kids a lot quicker because I wasn’t able to accomplish what I wanted to in the mornings. It wasn’t until I made the decision to spend the mornings focused on them that our days started to go better.
Now, just to note, part of this is because we adopted Ephraim as opposed to us having him from birth, he is still learning to entertain himself with toys and Raeca and Ephraim are still learning to play together, eventually I hope they will play together for longer stretches without a referee and I will actually be able to do stuff in the mornings (unless I decide to homeschool in the future, but that’s a whole other post in my head that I’ll have to write out one day).
This means that a lot of my “personal” stuff that I like to do (crafting, writing here, reading, listening to podcasts, send emails, oh yeah and posting photos to Instagram) needs to be done in the 1-2 hours of quiet time I get in the afternoons (and who am I kidding, 2 hours doesn’t happen very often). It means some of my goals and dreams have changed a little or been put on hold for a season, but that’s okay. Kids are only small for a season and I don’t want to have regrets down the road and feel like I wasted this short season.
What works for one person doesn’t always work for others, and what works for me now probably won’t work for me in a few months but since this is what is working now I thought I’d share it in case it helps others.
Now I’d love to hear from you,
what helps keep you present in your day?